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God’s Pattern for Marriage

Interesting sermon by Derek Prince sharing on how God brings people together…

  • God has an original pattern established at creation
  • It was God’s decision not Adam’s that Adam should marry
  • God formed Eve for Adam – God accepts that responsibility
  • God brought Eve to Adam – God orchestrates how people will meet. Adam did not have to wander around seeking His mate
  • God’s purpose is that they would be completely one
  • Don’t settle for less than God’s best design
  • Abandon yourself completely to God’s will
  • Most people are called to marry – if you are called to be single He will give you the grace


Idolatry of Marriage

idols-of-heartIdolatry Definitions

  • Blind and excessive devotion to something/someone
  • Anything or anyone that comes between you and God
  • When anything becomes ultimate, it is an idol


It was never my intent to worship another god except Jehovah. By the time I found myself in full blown idolatry, I did not even know it was idolatry. I just knew I was miserable and tired and disconnected from the Lord. At first I accepted it as a normal phase of the Christian walk (boredom and disconnection from God) and simply tried to go through the motions –  quiet time, go to church, read my bible, worship blah blah blah. But then our relationship with the Lord was never meant to be blah blah blah. It is not normal. The blah we feel is an indication that something is wrong. Instead of accepting it, it is time to go to the Lord in honesty and pray: Search me O God and know my heart; try me and know my thoughts. See if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting (Psalm 139:23-24). God is faithful to answer that prayer.


When I finished college over 10 years ago, I was not even thinking about marriage. I knew it is something that happens automatically. Get a job, work hard, get promoted, get a nice place, marry a Christian man (and a handsome one as well :-)) and start a family. That, to me, was the normal life. That is what I saw happen to my older friends and my first born sibling. It never crossed my mind that perhaps, just perhaps, God might have a different and unique path for me. Read the rest of this entry

Disappointed by a Prospective Relationship

This post addresses near-budding relationships that don’t take off.


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I have often been amazed at how two people can share the same experience, but have different perspectives. Same preacher – one person was blessed… the other one received nothing. Same meal – one person enjoys it, one cannot take a second bite. Same song – for one person it’s on repeat; the other person cannot stand it. Same piece of art – one sees creativity; one sees child play. One meeting between a man and a woman – one foresees a budding romantic friendship; the other has zero desire to go in that direction. Read the rest of this entry

The King is Enthralled by Your Beauty

The young lady swallowed hard and looked at the mass of tangled hair now on her comb. She run the comhairlossb again through her hair which pulled out an even bigger mass of weak broken hair. She purposed not to cry. She had just removed her box braids. When she had them done three weeks before, they were beautiful and elicited a lot of compliments.  But now, after taking them out with all the care she knew, the results were weak broken hair. She had braided her hair before, so she did not understand why it was now breaking. But then, everything in her life seemed to be breaking. Her heart. Her life. Her relationships. And now her hair.

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